The Ones Who Ignore the Good Things

Although I've been aware of the way [someone I know] handles forgiveness and love for a very long time, only today did I realize why. When this person wants to say they love you, [person] buys you something or acts overly cordial; whereas I am more of a blunt spear to the head most of the time: "You're pissing me off", "Thank you so much for doing this", "You are one of the only people who understands that about me". And this person is more of a "Do you want some more tea? I'll get it for you...", "Order whatever you want, don't worry about the money", "Let's see that movie tonight!" Exceptionally sweet, I know. Please know that was not sarcastic. 

But as I said, I now know the reason why [person] likes to show and not say. It is because when you say it or you write it, plain as day, the receiver makes you feel foolish. They make you wish you had chosen the contrastive way of showing you care, because they themselves do not know how to react to something so nicely stated. 

Now this person I've been talking of is a complex and intelligent character, and so is everyone else that has had a similar reaction. The reason why they show and don't say being answered, another enduring question flows to mind: Why can't they cope with some genteel statement when they are so intelligent? I am intelligent too, but I cannot fully explain their mind process. It's as though when you tell them how you feel toward them, even and especially when that feeling is positive, they think of it as some sort of mathematical equation that they don't recognize and then they become exasperated because they normally know math. As a result of this they blow the subject off, they turn the subject into something else, or they make light of something heavily said. The world is like one gigantic coop filled with wildlife that will scatter if you get near them.